Allison is an Associate Therapist at Midtown MFT gaining hours toward her Marriage and Family Therapy License. Born and raised in Los Angeles, California and a new-comer to NYC, Allison has a deep understanding of the difficulties and challenges that arise when making major transitions in one’s life and is committed to supporting her clients through any period of change that they may have. Allison believes our earliest relationships with our families have had great influence on the way we experience relationships today. She provides a warm, non-judgmental and supportive environment for healing.
Like any juicy tabloid magazine sometimes our minds can “print” something that might not be necessarily true, especially when we are under stress or experiencing anxiety. When we find ourselves in an anxious state, our minds can read to us endless stories of impending doom and fear.
Though sometimes the mind can give us these high stake stories as tales of warning we should pay attention to, our brains can also hand us a list of who, whats, wheres and hows that are as false as any story printed by the National Enquirer, and are only in existence to make our anxiety more intense as we are experiencing it.
When we are unconscious to the intention of the running of negative thoughts in our minds during an anxious moment, it is likely that our anxiety will be increased, making it more difficult to find a place of calm. In other words, anxious thoughts usually lead to anxious feelings. If we have not practiced slowing down and examining our thoughts when we have become anxious, our minds can produce slanderous, untrue material only suited to be sold next to the registers at Duane Reade.
Developing and practicing fact checking is a simple process. Here is what to do:
- When you find yourself in an anxious state, pause as best you can (this can range from taking a few centering breaths, to taking a break from your current situation) , and look at your thoughts. To look at one’s thoughts means to examine them just as if they were printed words on a page of a book.
- Pause, breathe, and stay with your thoughts as best you can.
- Write them down to get a closer look. As you “read,” ask yourself if all of your thoughts in this moment are truly real and yours? Or are they fiction and are only fibs being spouted by your anxiety?
- Make a choice: Will you believe these stories or not? Decide whether to pay attention or to simply notice and move on from what you anxiety is telling you.
Developing one’s inner fact checker can assist the mind in producing stories that are more New York Times, less OK! magazine.
Even if our minds occasionally continue to spew such newsworthy stories of yet another Big Foot siting or Alien Invasion, at the very least we give ourselves the space to put it back on a shelf for a reading for another time.