When we boil it down, marriage and relationship is a choosing. When we couple, we are in effect stating to our friends, our families, to the universe and to our partners that we pick this person. It is stipulated in the marriage vows. “I take (choose) this person as my lawfully wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others, for as long as we both shall live.” This is a truly profound statement of choice. Read More →
Some of you may have already heard that love is not one of our basic emotions. It may sound like heresy but love is not what you feel about another nor is it what you might say. Love is what you do. With the couples in my private practice in the East village of NY (www.eastvillagecounseling.com) and in my Couples Communication Workshops at Midtown Marriage and Family Therapy (www.midtownmft.com), I am trumpeting the news about love ad nauseum. Read More →
One-Day Communication Skills Workshop
Next Date: March 3, 2012
‘From Isolation to Connection: Learn to speak, so you can be heard, and to listen, so you can hear.
- Do you often blame, attack your partner, or defend yourself when trying to get your point across?
- Do you find yourself in the same repeating arguments?
- Do you feel unheard or misunderstood?
- Do you have a hard time listening to your partner or remembering what was said?
- Do you ‘check out’ when your partner is telling you his/her complaints?
- Are your emotional reactions out of proportion to the current situation?
- Do discussions turn from something simple to something heated and volatile?
- Do you long for your partner to hear you and respond to what you are saying?
This experiential workshop will give you tools you can quickly implement in your relationships to:
- Deepen connection.
- Decrease anger and overreactions.
- Resolve conflict and find solutions to problems.
- End repetitive patterns.
- Learn to better control emotional outbursts.
Saturday Dates: 11-3pm
Upcoming Dates: March 31, and May 5
Cost and Payment:
$110 per person payable online. Click here
This workshop is a great compliment to existing Couple Therapy or Individual Therapy. It will give you great insights about your reactions, and way of communicating, that you can bring into your current therapeutic work.
Communication skills training in NYC for couples and individuals for problem resolution, to resolve conflict and communicate more effectively.
From Isolation to Connection:
How to speak and listen in ways that are felt, heard, and understood. Read More →
Sometimes we feel the angriest with the ones we love most, and we find ourselves in repeating patterns of reactivity, when what we really crave is to be heard and understood by our partners. How do we break through this and get our needs and wants met?
We feel more and react more with those closest to us. This may be because they matter to us more or simply because we spend more time with them. We have needs and wants that go unmet because we haven’t learned how to communicate them successfully. We often create expectations and then Read More →
Saturday 2/4 in NYC, 11-3pm
Communication skills training in NYC for couples and individuals: problem resolution, resolve conflict, communicate more effectively.
From Isolation to Connection: How to speak and listen in ways that are felt, heard, and understood. Read More →
Think back to some difficult childhood times. How did you cope? Did you sleep with the radio loud to drown out your parents fighting, or did you spend all your time out of the house to avoid them? Were you stuck in the middle and forced to fight for survival, or protect others, from the angry drunken wrath of your father? Were you forced to fend for yourself, and deny that you had needs because your mother was too overwhelmed and depressed to notice you?
Write down how you learned to get by, or survive, in your childhood home. These are behaviors we learned to help us when we were in distress. These early relational patterns were necessary then, and without realizing it, we carry them with us. Most likely, this is how we guard ourselves against distress in current relationships, and consequently, these patterns may also be the cause of the distress in our relationships.
When we fail to approach life’s struggles as a team, we can fall into the same repetitive arguments where our conflicts remain unsolved. We fight each other instead of working together to solve our problems. This article will highlight a few examples of healthy/ conscious starts to difficult conversations.
“I am so angry right now I feel like I can just explode. Read More →